Friday, 12 June 2009
The journey to the dream profession can be a slow and agonizing on a steam train that may never reach the distant destination of having your name engraved on a brass plate glued screwed to an office door. The train may come to a temporary but long and gruesome halt while our standing on the platform of ambitious works indefinitely awaiting a promotion. Willing and capable of advancing in life, the only candle lit at the end of the tunnel is the notion of being at the ‘right place at the right time’. But when that moment comes, will it be as easy as standing still to miraculously see a jet black helicopter hovering above your with Sir Alan Sugar rolling down a ladder for you to his empire of business? What if there is a more component in the formula for a deal breaking moment in a career, the right person with the right spirit perhaps?
Here are some advice on how to make the best out of networking opportunities and thus, not leave unnoticed or empty handed:
Dress to amaze and distract
Inferiority complex is a common syndrome to experience at social occasions when nervousness grows are you realise that you are possibly the smallest fish in the pond. The act of convincing other guests that you’re an important guest begins at home, in the wardrobe. If surrounding guests will be millionaires, then dress up like a billionaire and if fellow guests will be fighter pilots, wear an astronaut suit. Fear underdressing rather than overdressing. Strong presence and posture tend to attract curiosity of bored guests lurking for a funny chatter while enjoying themselves with a glass of wine. Be a maverick by wearing a red bow tie to a black tie event, but abstract appearances should be ideally be mitigated with very powerful credentials and merit.
Choose the right chaperone
Never show up to an event alone as there is a risk of the status quo remaining for the rest of the day. As a loner the game play will dismantled your cards will be exposed by individuals who know that anyone of importance generate interests and is therefore never alone at a social event. The perfect chaperone is ideally someone of the opposite sex for the sake of simplicity. A nightmare scenario is having the company of a woman, only to hear the words “I’m bored and want to go home” after she has been 30min spectator of you chatting up a more attractive female. Two brains that think alike work best together and even individually as the companion or side kick can assisting in putting your name out or introducing you to seductive women.
A strong character is everything and more
Social events can be rouge and superficial. Many are out on the look up to tie new business relationships, customers or find someone that will usher them to the next step on the ladder. In the first 30 seconds of socialising with a new found mate both parties will have made their mind up on whether to continue exchanging words or to drift away to the next person. The inevitable question of the first moments is “What do you do?”. For those unfazed by their own profession it is a question one wants to avoid, especially if the opposite encounter holds an admirable position in a fortune 500 company. Shedding light any accomplishments made as well as future ambitions is a devious way of coming across as successful in the case that one’s profession does a poor job encapsulating career ambitions. One or two convincing factoids are sufficient but humility should be exercised although you shouldn’t sky away from speaking about yourself. In fact, don’t talk but speak up like a talk-show host and captivate your audience. Speaking from the lungs and diaphragm is important as you’re virtually trying to sell yourself. The art of speaking can be a tricky one to master and involves speaking about topics beyond the weather and the next person to be eliminated on Big Brother. Not to be forgotten in all insincerity to is that you’re dealing with people and can gain valuable contacts my simply making a new friend who might refer you to someone who might potentially hire you. Know when to switch from personality from Rupert Murdoch to Prince Harry of Wales.